LoveWell Story Part 2

I had already seen the impact of love notes with my husband in 2023. It was a hard season for him, and those little slips of paper became lifelines that quietly reminded him he was seen, loved, and not alone. I did not realize it then, but God was teaching me something. It was not until 2024 that I began to bring those same love notes into motherhood.

My son had started to walk through some challenging moments at school, and I could see that his confidence was taking a hit. It was weighing on him and I could see it on his face and hear it in his words. I knew I needed to speak to more than his behavior. I needed to reach his heart. I wanted him to know what his parents believed about him, and even more than that, I wanted him to know what God says about him instead of what the world says about him.

So I was led again to start writing him love notes. I wrote notes to build his confidence. I wrote notes to remind him that he was not failing, but learning. I wrote notes that declared the word of God over him, reminding him that he can do all things through Christ who gives him strength.

Each morning, I tucked one note into his lunch bag. The words were simple, but they carried specific truth. They were small seeds that I prayed would take root in his heart. There were days I felt like stopping, days when I thought he was not reading them, and days when I quietly wondered if any of it even mattered. Then one day, in a regular moment at home, he threw my own words back at me. “Mummy, do not say that. Remember, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.”

In that moment, I realized that he had been reading the notes. He had been listening. He had been storing the words in his heart.

Then something beautiful happened. He started sharing the notes with his friends “Kristian, I want to see what your mom wrote to you today.”

What I assumed might embarrass him turned out to be something he valued. One day I asked him, “Do you want me to stop writing the notes?” He answered quickly, “No, Mummy, I do not want you to stop. I read the notes.” So I kept writing.

Over time, I began to see the shift. His confidence slowly started to rise. It was as if he began to believe what I had been saying about him, which was really what God had already spoken over him.

📣 That he is the head and not the tail.
📣 That he is above and not beneath.
📣 That he is strong and courageous.
📣 That he is a mighty warrior.

This is where gratitude in motherhood touches me deeply. I am so grateful for the gift of motherhood. I am grateful that God allows us to step in and intervene. I am grateful that we get to nurture the hearts that have been entrusted to us and steward them with care and intention.

Scripture Reflection

“Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” ~ Psalm 127: 3

Heart Truths

Motherhood is not only about managing schedules and solving problems. It is also about tending to the hearts that God has placed in your care.

Gratitude in motherhood looks like thanking God that you get to speak into who your child becomes, even when it is hard and even when you are tired. We get to plant seeds that shape their identity, their courage, and their character.

Your words are not wasted. Your notes are not wasted. Your encouragement is not wasted.

When you choose to see your child through the lens of who God says they are, something powerful happens inside of you and inside of them. You begin to parent from a place of gratitude instead of constant frustration.

You remember that:
✅ You are not only correcting behavior. You are also shaping what your child believes about themselves.
✅ You are not only trying to get them through a school year. You are also helping them see themselves the way God sees them.
✅    You are not only writing notes. You are also building a foundation of truth that they can stand on when you are not in the room.

This matters for your people.

A child who knows they are loved, seen, and consistently spoken over in truth grows into an adult who can love their spouse well, parent with compassion, serve others with confidence, and respond to life with courage.

Loving Well In Action

You do not need an entirely new routine to show gratitude in motherhood. You can begin where you are, with simple and specific actions. Here are two ways you can put this into practice:

1.      Pray your words over your children out loud

Choose one scripture and pray it over your child where they can hear you. Let them hear you bring their name and their situation before God. You might pray, “Lord, thank you that my child can do all things through Christ who strengthens them. Help them remember this when school feels hard.”

When your child hears you thank God for them and speak His word over them, it reminds them that they are covered in love and prayer.

2.     Keep a small record of gratitude

At the end of the day, take a moment to write down one thing you are grateful for in your child. It might be a moment you shared, a question they asked, a smile that encouraged you, or a tiny win that would be easy to overlook.

This simple practice gently shifts your focus from what is not working to the grace that is already present in your home. It helps you notice where God is at work in your child and in you, and it strengthens your capacity to keep loving them well.

Remember, you are not only loving your child in this season. You are also loving their future home, their future friendships, and their future purpose.

So, let’s love them well.

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